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Please Move With Us!

February 23, 2013

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We’ve Moving!

February 22, 2013 1 Comment

We’re moving!  We’ve grown quite a bit this year, so we’re moving to  If you go to that site today and tomorrow, it may look a bit untidy.  Stay with us, and we’ll let you know when we’re ready to go.

How to Live a Barefoot Life

February 21, 2013 4 Comments

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Post written by Leo Babauta at 

Yesterday morning I ran a few miles in my Vibram Fivefingers, designed to mimic barefoot running (see my guide to barefoot running).

And then I took off the minimalist Fivefinger shoes, and ran completely barefoot for half a mile. It was liberating.

Later, I walked for a couple of hours, taking my sandals off for a good part of the walk. Today I walked barefoot once again. There’s a sensation to barefoot walking that is light, free, simple, joyful.

Imagine walking barefoot on thick grass, or cool night sand. These are wonderful sensations that shod walkers cannot enjoy.

Going barefoot, I realized, is a perfect metaphor for my philosophy of life: the barefoot philosophy.

When you go barefoot, you become naked, you simplify, you become a minimalist.

It’s a hard philosophy to explain, because others often judge it as weird, hippy-like (as if that’s bad), unpractical. It’s very practical, and while it may indeed be weird, it’s also beautiful.

It’s the simple life, in a nutshell.

The Barefoot Philosophy, in Bits

To embrace the Barefoot Philosophy, you don’t actually have to go barefoot. Again, it’s a metaphor for how you might live your life, and these principles can be applied to anything you do.

  • Light: When you’re barefoot, you feel light, and you’re not burdened by stuff. In anything in life, if you can be light, it’s a wonderful feeling. Think traveling light, or moving to a new city without too much stuff.
  • Free: Walking barefoot, you feel free, without the restrictions of shoes. The fewer burdens and restrictions you have in life, the freer you are. Think of how easy it would be to pick up and travel, or move, or change jobs, or do something with a friend in the middle of a work day.
  • Naked: Without shoes, you feel a bit naked, and being naked in public is scary. But it’s also an exhilarating feeling, and once you get comfortable with that nakedness, it’s kinda fun. Blogging can feel this way — you’re putting yourself out into the world, naked, and that’s scary at first. Doing anything different, where you expose a piece of yourself, is like being naked. But you get used to it, and it’s not so scary.
  • Pleasureful: The point of walking barefoot is to experience the pleasure of feeling the surface beneath your feet. The sensations are marvelous: cool, warm, textured, plush, smooth, rough. In anything in life, if you can experience the sensations of whatever you’re doing, this is a beautiful thing. Think of the sensations of eating, swimming, washing dishes, sitting on a breezy porch, lying in the grass under the sun, kissing in the rain.
  • Aware: Walking barefoot, you’re more aware of the ground you’re walking over — when you’re shod, you can walk for miles without really thinking about the surfaces you’re traveling over. In anything you do, increasing your awareness of your surroundings is a desirable thing. Think of walking outside vs. being inside a car, or shutting off the mobile device so you can talk to the people around you or pay attention to the beauty around you.
  • Present: The beauty of walking barefoot is that it brings you back to the present moment. It’s hard to be stuck in a perceived slight by someone else earlier in the day, or worry about what might happen later in the day, when you are walking barefoot. In anything you do, if you can stay in the present moment, you will experience life to the fullest, will be less likely to be stuck in anger or consumed by worry or stressed by coming events.
  • Non-conformist: One of the hardest things about walking barefoot isn’t the temperature or possible pain of pebbles, it’s the non-conformity of it all — it’s being worried that others will think you’re a dork, or homeless, or some kind of dangerous radical. And yet, I’ve learned to embrace my non-conformist side, to relish in being a bit different, to be proud I’m not one of the sheep. There’s nothing wrong with bucking societal norms, if it’s for good reason.
  • Non-consumerist: The shoe companies would hate it if there were a major barefoot movement, because they’re no product they could sell you as a solution. This isn’t true of environmentalism — there are tons of green products that are making millions of dollars for corporations. I believe in ditching shoes like I believe in ditching any kind of product that you buy as a solution to life’s problems. Life is better with less, not more, and when you think of yourself as a human rather than a consumer, you’re breaking free from the endless cycle of earning and buying and using up.

How to Live a Barefoot Life

The above philosophy is fine, and might appeal to some, but what you want is a practical guide, no?

I’m not going to give it to you. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution, nor is it desirable to live the life prescribed by someone else. The whole point is to do it on your own, without buying one of my books or doing it exactly as I do.

Live this philosophy, in small bits, and see if you like it. It takes some time to adjust to this approach, but it’s lovely in the end.

Some things to consider and try, though:

  • Try walking barefoot (tipsfaq).
  • Get rid of a couple boxes of clutter today.
  • When you leave your house, take less with you than usual.
  • When you find yourself worried about the future or past, breathe, and focus on your breath going in and out.
  • When you find yourself wanting to buy something, pause. Then think of how you can live without buying it.
  • Take time to fully enjoy a few simple pleasures today: the slow savoring of a small portion of something delicious, watching nature, spending time with a loved one, walking.
  • Try some minimalist fun.
  • Think of the restrictions you impose on yourself, and see if you can lift a few of them.
  • Smile, and breathe.
  • Most of all, be present and enjoy life.


Pleasant Surprises

February 8, 2013

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By Andrew Kensley, the Coloradoan

Last week while my wife was out of town, I took my daughters ice skating in Old Town and out for sushi. And since they’d been behaving well in Tanya’s absence and generally eating healthy food over the previous few days, I promised them ice cream.

“We love ice cream!” Ella, my 8-year-old, said. “Dad, you’re the best dad ever!”

My children are not alone in their use of superlatives. Sophia, my 5-year-old, often calls me her “best friend ever,” but also says the same thing about Tanya, Ella, and Lola, her stuffed bunny. Ella is equally effusive when she says she had “the best day of her entire life,” or calls a specific food the “best thing she’s ever eaten.” It’s fun to see my kids so enthusiastic.

I’ve noticed, though, that they tend to express those animated characterizations aloud only in certain situations. They don’t cheer wildly when I make fruit salad or convince them to bathe every now and then, even though those things are more beneficial in the long term. As we made our way to the ice cream shop, I wondered: how important are random, unexpected treats to overall happiness?

The meat and potatoes of parenting are in the routines of the daily grind. We make sure our kids sleep, do their homework, eat healthy foods and exercise. We teach them to be responsible, take care of their things and clean up after themselves. In theory, those basics are all they need for survival. There is no biological need for trips to Disneyworld or a triple decker sundae.

But humans don’t exist “in theory” only. Admit it: When you ditch the salad bar in favor of a greasy burger and a few beers, or stay out until 2 a.m. partying with your friends, you feel excited that you indulged. That’s because we crave pleasure, especially when we’re used to doing the sensible thing most of the time.

According to a 2001 article in “Neuroscience,” pleasant surprises lead to “marked stimulation in the brain’s pleasure centers,” which produce chemicals that make us happy. Since happiness tends to lead to more of the same, we would be wise to allow ourselves to be surprised every now and then. The promise and possibilities of rewards help us endure things like preparing our taxes and organizing that filthy garage.

Life success is built on the notion that if you work for five days, you get to play on the other two. Save for retirement every paycheck and you deserve to spend a month’s salary on a nice vacation once in a while. Rewards keep us engaged in the less exciting aspects of our lives, and kids are no exception. In fact, in a population that is constantly watching to make sure we’re paying attention, that kind of reassurance is crucial in their emotional development.

Back at home, I asked Ella if I was the best dad because of the ice cream. “No,” she said, and hugged me. “But it was delicious.”

Andrew Kensley is a writer, physical therapist, husband and father in Fort Collins. He welcomes your emails to


“When fishing for happiness, catch and release.”

by Shimon Edelman, author of  The Happiness of Pursuit: What Neuroscience Can Teach Us About the Good Life, .

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Releasing a rod-caught Atlantic salmon on the Little Gruinard in Wester Ross, Scotland (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Fishing for Happiness

February 7, 2013

Happy as a Dog

February 5, 2013

funny dog pictures - Some pursue happiness- others create it.

“Should” and “Must” Get in the Way

February 4, 2013

By Junice Rockman of Murfreesboro

How many times have you questioned yourself about the way you completed a task, the timing in which you reached a goal or the manner you responded to a situation?

Many of us expend a great deal of thought and energy analyzing our thoughts, decisions and choices in this way. While it is both necessary and important to make small adjustments in our lives along the way, it can be downright exhausting when we find ourselves micromanaging every aspect of our lives in this way.


We each arrived on the planet with an “internal GPS” or “God’s Positioning System” that helps direct our choices and shape our destiny. Some of us call the GPS our conscience, our “gut,” following our heart or our instincts. We all have it, we just have to learn how to hear it and trust what we hear. The more we allow ourselves to trust ourselves, the better we get at it. Learning to follow your heart is like working a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger you get. On the other hand, if you don’t use it, you may eventually lose it.

Our ‘must’

When we continually evaluate our lives based on a standard of what we could or should have done differently, it hinders us from experiencing abundant happiness because we are constantly second guessing ourselves. In our society we seem to be on a continual quest to fix ourselves instead of learning to love and be ourselves.

We create a set of “must” or things that must happen in our lives in order to be happy and fulfilled. While standards are essential to having a quality life, having unrealistic “musts” in our lives is counter productive. Instead we need to set a standard of “musts” that are inspiring, realistic and attainable in our lives.

As we continually evolve and make changes, we can still love ourselves and our lives in the process. As we relinquish the need for perfection we move away from striving to be perfect and instead strive to become the best version of ourselves.

‘Tyranny of shoulds’

Karen Horney, an ego psychologist, created the theory of the “Tyranny of the Shoulds.” The theory basically expresses the idea that people are often so negative toward themselves because they feel that they “should” have met a certain set of goals in their life. Her goal was to get people past the tyranny, accept themselves and define healthy ways to make changes and evolve over time.

Contact Junice Rockman of Murfreesboro


“Be happy without reason.  If you are happy with a reason, that reason may be taken away from you, and you’ll lose your joy. If you are happy without reason, nobody can take your happiness away.”  – Dalai Lama

Tenzin Gyatso, the fourteenth and current Dala...

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Happy Without Reason

February 3, 2013

Is Your Job Making You Miserable?

February 2, 2013 2 Comments

Excerpts from Holly Sidell in the Huffington Post.  

It’s a vicious cycle. Spend our days (our lives) at a job where we most likely feel we’re not living our purpose. Come home too wiped out to get to work on our purpose, or volunteer, or study, or work on our spiritual growth, or make some kind of difference in the world… come home too wiped out to experience true connection with our loved ones (um, no wonder the divorce rate is so high! Couples don’t communicate after a long day’s work — they’d rather just veg in front of the TV and have a drink).

We come home and see ads on TV for things we should buy to make us feel better about ourselves. So we wake up the next morning with the thought that at least we’re making money to buy that new outfit which will make us look good. But then we get the outfit, and guess what? We may feel good for the first few wearings but then that feeling goes away. So we seek something else. And the cycle continues. Because nothing external will ever be able to truly make us feel good about ourselves.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t work. That’s not the issue… I love hard work. I encourage hard work. There’s nothing better than the feeling when you work your butt off, overcome challenges, and really accomplish something. I’ve pulled all-nighters, worked 24 hours for a deadline, and man, it felt amazing. Working hard to accomplish something is one of the things that DOES make us feel good about ourselves because it gives us pride.

So not working isn’t the issue. The issue is the way we work. The issue is why we work. Unfortunately, I have gotten caught lately on the hamster wheel, and it doesn’t feel good. I have to make a change. To me, this is not a way to live. I don’t want to work to live. I want to LIVE. I want to come home and experience true connection with my man, and have real conversations and laughs with my friends at happy hour or on the phone, and talk to my mom about her day and share with her my day. THAT’S what life is about — connection. People. Relationships. Don’t let your job ruin that. A job is just a job — it’s not our life, regardless of what anyone else, society, or the media may tell you. A job allows us to live, yes, and for that we are grateful. But it doesn’t need to dictate our mental state and the quality of relationships in our life.

But how do we change what’s so solidly put in motion? I really wish I had an answer. I sometimes think as a whole, we might be too far gone. I think the answer lies with each person individually — how badly each person wants a change, how far each person is willing to think outside the box, how much each person is willing to believe that things CAN change, how much each person can shift their perspective and priority. Because maybe all you are capable of doing right now is to shift your perspective. It is tough. It is a battle. There may be opposition or scrutiny. But if you know in your heart and gut how you want to live your life, then you’ll figure out a way to stop letting your job dictate your life… and start really living it.

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